Holy Mischief!

So what is that all about? Holy Mischief?

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Last week Episcopalians dedicated to the ministry of Christian Formation from Province IV (20 southeastern dioceses) and from across the church gathered at Kanuga Camp and Conference Center in North Carolina for the annual Christian Formation Conference.

For some the week was an annual pilgrimage to a sacred place where old friends and colleagues meet annually. For some it was a brand new experience of soaking up wisdom, learning new skills, and sharing learning experiences. And for us less frequent participants, it was a little of both.

For all of us it was a conference with a dose of Holy Mischief.

The Kanuga Conference design team, under the coordination of Emily Slichter Given, chose Holy Mischief as the theme for the conference this year. Ana Hernandez and Deanna Witkowski provided new settings and approaches to sacred music for the conference, helping set the tone for two keynoters.

Our first keynoter, Shane Claiborne, shared powerful stories of the Holy Mischief he and his friends have been making in Philadelphia since his college days in solidarity with and advocacy for the urban poor living in north Philly; with and without homes, in a food dessert, largely un-or-under-employed. Shane has authored many books and has traveled widely and was able to help us examine new ways to consider how to be Christians fully interacting with the unjust structures present in our own contexts.

Our second keynoter Matthew Moretz, of “Father Matthew Presents” fame on the Internet, called us to embrace technology, specifically digital movie-making, to harness the power of sequential moving images to tell our story and correct the negative impressions of Christians that abound in our culture. He helped us break down some of the possibilities of using whimsy to get attention, illustrate a point, and create empathy for regular characters in storytelling.

Tom BrackettAt the closing Eucharistic celebration Tom Brackett, my colleague on the Episcopal Church staff, preached a powerful sermon demonstrating God’s capacity for mischievous interaction with mortals both in the Hebrew midrash and the Jesus story.

He shared his own harrowing adventure of faithful people resisting oppressors through mischievous and risky behavior, taking risks to save fellow humans. Tom also used a quote from Marianne Williamson to challenge conference participants to make Holy Mischief. I offer that passage at the end of this blog post.

I highly recommend interacting with any of these faithful Christians, each offering their own witness to the love of Christ in vastly different and deeply faithful contexts.

I offer prayers of gratitude for Emily and the Kanuga crew for convening us and feeding us physically, professionally, and spiritually.

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others. 

 Marianne WilliamsonReturn to Love: Reflections on the Principles of “A Course in Miracles”

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How do you parent after graduation?

Jenifer GamberThis is the second of two posts written by guest blogger Jenifer GamberJenifer is the mother of two young adults and author of Call on Me: A Prayer Book for Young People and My Faith, My Life: A Teen’s Guide to the Episcopal Church. She also leads retreats and workshops for Christian educators working with youth.

Parenting Graduates

In June 2009 my son graduated high school. This past May he graduated college. Each of these events presented opportunities for me and my spouse to reflect on how we needed change our parenting. What does it mean to parent a son living 3,000 miles away in college who can, and did, explore new opportunities and make new decisions on his own?

What does it mean to parent a son who has his a job and his own apartment? Pays all his expenses.

What does healthy parenting look like now?  The answers depend on goals for ourselves and for our son. I once heard that not having goals for yourself is under-functioning. Having goals for someone else is over-functioning.

So, step one—let go of our goals for him. It’s important to take time with this step. Chances are, you do have goals for your children. Of course we do. So, be honest. A somewhat condemning article about 20-somethings entitled, “ What Is It about 20-Somethings” in The New York Times (9/18/2010) that led with the question, “Why are so many people in their 20s taking so long to grow up?” listed five common goals:

  • Completing school
  • Leaving home
  • Becoming financially independent
  • Marrying
  • Having a child

The article does recognize that some of these are anachronistic—though the article still describes 20-somethings as currently slouching toward adulthood. Take a look at these first and really think if any of them apply to you. I know of one adult who made the big announcement, “I am choosing not to have children.” (She is reserving the right to change her mind.)

Step two—identify the goals that remain. Name them. Ask yourself, “What values underlie these goals?” Instead of the five goals above, what if the goals were to be someone who leads an integrated life—that their values reflect the Baptismal Promises and their actions reflect those values? A friend recently wrote a family mission statement based on the Baptismal Promises. A sound practice. (You can find them on page 305 of the Book of Common Prayer.)

Step three—decide what to do about those goals. I’d suggest that it’s OK to have some goals. We all have hopes. It’s what we do with them that matters. We can pray them. We can tread lightly as advisors to our sons and daughters. Listen to them. You might change your prayers and your advice.

Step four—be open to change and continue to let go, let go, and let go, remembering to continue to love and care.

It hasn’t been easy for us. We succeeded with some of our commitments. We have no idea what grades our son earned. We never asked. He graduated. I didn’t always favor his girlfriends. He knew it and I learned I needed to let go. I worked to understand, support, and stop to be quiet and listen.

He’s starting his new job soon. He found an apartment. I will still have to review my goals for him—stop over-functioning—and let go.  I can still pray for him as adult child and for myself as a parent.

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Nurturing the Holy Spark: Guest blogger Jenifer Gamber shares her thoughts on liturgy and milestones

Jenifer GamberFor the next two posts I am pleased to welcome Jenifer Gamber as guest bloggerJenifer is the mother of two young adults and author of Call on Me: A Prayer Book for Young People and My Faith, My Life: A Teen’s Guide to the Episcopal Church. She also leads retreats and workshops for Christian educators working with youth.

Milestones and Changes

Many people have recognized the need for the Church to recognize milestones in the lives of people of all ages. They are points at which we can gather with one another to name these events and affirm God’s blessings throughout our lives.

Some are celebrations such as the completion of high school, college, or apprenticeship or transition from work to retirement. Others are pastoral such as the death of a newborn or the separation of two people made one through a blessing.

I believe that every person is born with a spark of the Holy within that seeks to know and be known. That Holy spark is evident in the deep gaze of a baby into the one who mother’s her. We see it in the joyful swirling body and arms of a child on a warm sunny day—soaking in the beauty of the day.  It is evident in a teenager’s pull toward abiding friendship and romance. This spark seeks expression and a language. And the church can give that spark language to express God’s movement in their lives through liturgies and blessings.

And fortunately we have a number of resources to do so. Here are some:

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Brief blog post from Executive Council meeting

As the Team Leader for Formation and Vocation Ministries and Youth Missioner of the Domestic and Foreign Missionary Mission Society (DFMS) of the Episcopal Church, I am appointed to serve as a staff liaison to Executive Council’s Committee for Local Mission and Ministry (LMM).

In this capacity I have the honor of reporting our staff’s activities and the privilege of being at the table as resolutions are created and considered by this interim leadership body for the Episcopal Church. The role of liaison is simply to report, keeping the flow of communication moving through our various networks.

This morning during a joint session of three committees I joined my colleague David Copley to report on the work to date in the new Mark of Mission #3 Initiative: Respond to human need in loving service.

Here are the some brief points about what’s happening with the plan to date:

  • In 2013 we increased the Young Adult Service Corps (YASC) participation from 16 in 2012/13 to 28 for 2013/14. A United Thank Offering grant has been awarded for the support of our Province IX YASCers.
  • We are launching a thorough study of YASC alumni to determine demographics, development, and continued progress of this growing Episcopal population and their longer-term impact on the church and the world.
  • In planning to establish a Gap Year program for 18-20 year olds, the Formation and Vocation Ministries Team and Global Partnerships Team will convene a meeting of several authorities, stakeholders, and practitioners to discern and determine a model Gap Year Program to be implemented in 2014/15 as a pilot program.
  • A new resource with the working title “Episcopal Youth in Mission Manual” is being developed for free distribution in the fall of 2013.
  • The Global Partnerships Team continues to host conversations with the Mission Networking Offices regarding the expansion of our mission opportunities for short-term mission, older adults, and youth and college groups eager to volunteer their time in God’s service in the world. Some of this dreaming and planning is taking place in the context of planning for the Episcopal Youth Event taking place in Philadelphia and Villanova July 9-13, 2014.

We will continue to report out possibilities as they develop.

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EYE 2014: Villanova here we come!

eye_logoIt’s official!

EYE 2014 will be at Villanova University, July 9 to 13, 2014. 

Here’s the announcement that was sent out today by the Episcopal Church Office of Public Affairs. (It’s word-for-word from the press release so if it sounds a bit formal – meaning it is not in my usual blog tone – that’s why.)

EYE14 location announced
Villanova University in July 2014

The popular Episcopal Youth Event (EYE) will be held at Villanova University in suburban Philadelphia, PA. Slated for July 9-13, 2014, EYE14 is being planned in partnership with the Diocese of Pennsylvania.

The announcement was made June 8 by Bishop Clifton Daniel of the Diocese of Pennsylvania, to Executive Council, currently meeting in Maryland.

“Villanova University offers a scenic setting, with ample facilities for all the activities we are planning for EYE14,” Bronwyn Clark Skov, Episcopal Church Youth Ministries Officer, explained.  “Villanova is well known for its academics as well as its athletics, and its prime location near public transportation makes it an ideal place for our gathering.”

The 2014 event marks the twelfth EYE and remains a popular and well-attended event. EYE 2014 is geared for youth in grades 9-12 during the 2013-2014 academic year and their adult leaders.

Planning team
Skov said that the planning team has met; activities topics, themes and worship services are being addressed.

Planning team members are:

Youth
• Thomas Alexander, Diocese of Arkansas, Province 7
• Madeline Carroll, Diocese of Milwaukee, Province 5
• Whitney Chapman, Diocese of West Virginia, Province 3
• Ariana Gonzalez-Bonillas, Diocese of Arizona, Province 8
• Lillian Hardaway, Diocese of Upper South Carolina, Province 4
• Angela Hudnell, Diocese of Ohio, Province 5
• Cydney Jackson, Diocese of San Diego, Province 8
• Casey Nakamura, Diocese of Hawaii, Province 8
• Kayden Nasworthy, Diocese of Massachusetts, Province 1
• Joseph Prickett, Diocese of Nebraska, Province 6
• Justin Thao, Diocese of Minnesota, Province 6
• Hauseng Vang, Diocese of Minnesota, Province 6
• Roger Villatoro, Diocese of  Southeast Florida, Province 4
• Rosanna Vizcaino, Diocese of the Dominican Republic, Province 9

Adults
• Arlette Benoit, Diocese of Atlanta, Province 4
• Vincent Black, Diocese of Ohio, Province 5
• Randy Callender, Diocese of Maryland, Province 3
• Cookie Cantwell, Diocese of East Carolina, Province 4
• Randall Curtis, Diocese of Arizona, Province 7
• Earl Gibson, Diocese of Los Angeles, canonically resident in Diocese of Arizona, Province 8
• Andrew Kellner, Diocese of Pennsylvania, Province 3
• Shannon Kelly, Diocese of Southern Ohio, canonically resident in Diocese of Milwaukee, Province 5
• Abigail Moon, Diocese of Florida, Province 4

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Every Picture Tells a Story

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Today’s guest blogger is Teri Valente, Youth Ministry Coordinator for the Episcopal Diocese of Delaware & Program Director for Camp Arrowhead. Teri blogs at Youth Ministry in the Episcopal Diocese of Delaware.

I’m not sure I could be more excited for The Youth Cartel‘s the 2013 digital edition of Every Picture Tells a Story.

Quite Simply – it’s a collection of 48 evocative black and white images and a Leader’s Guide with 18 prompts for reflection, journaling, processing or discussion springboards.

The first edition was published in 2002 and has been out of print – a very sad story for anyone who lost an image or their original leader guide years ago… :/ oops.

I know tons of youth leaders who used to (and sometimes still) have file folders full of clipped magazine images and collected images from online…. I’m claiming that this is new. It’s not.

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BUT – for those who don’t find leading contemplative exercises doesn’t come naturally it sets you up well to succeed (with or without really trying).

Reasons I Love It:

It’s so easy to use. The images are all the same size. The prompts are varied and simple to follow. It sets the thermostat for your discussion. It’s easy to plan to use and easy to use in a pinch when your other plan falls through.

The first edition helped me lead a large group in a contemplative exercise as I was learning to be more contemplative myself. It’s one of my standard experiential prayer stations and a rich go-to activity to help facilitate reflection and introspection.

The artwork is simple, yet complex, beautiful and weird. Your students (and leaders) will see things in a picture that no one else did – and in their explanations you will come to get so much more of who that person is. It’s like the exercises trick them into being far more honest than usual. :)

It’s digital. You can make as many copies as your heart desires in whatever size you want. If another leader is going to “borrow” this resource you never have to worry again about getting your copy back. And it means that as soon as you purchase it – you can immediately download it.

AND!!! For a limited time – when you purchase the new edition, they’re throwing in the old one as a free gift. That’s 96 images!!

Check out a sample.

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Guest Blogger asks, “Where is God at work, and how can I join him there?”

It gives me great joy to share this guest blog post written by Thomas Alexander, Episcopal Youth Event Mission Planning Team member from the Diocese of Arkansas, Province 7. In the short time I have known Thomas, I have found him thoughtful and reflective; a great asset to the EYE Team. I am confident you will be impacted by the story Thomas shares below. 

I have felt God’s presence in the past few weeks more than usual, and as a result, I’ve been craving to bridge my relationship with God and my relationship with other people.

I guess we find God working in the most unlikely of places.

This past Monday, I went for a morning run through the quiet suburban neighborhood surrounding my house. I hadn’t been for a run in a while, so I had some expectations: The vibrant trees arching above the streets are a sight to see in Arkansas during this time of year. The neighbors were tending their gardens. I occasionally encountered another runner, and would give a good ‘ole Southern “Good morning” or “Have a nice day!” I expected those things.

However, it seems as if God likes to meet our expectations and then surprise us by exceeding them.

I saw a couple of people rushing to their cars as, I assume, they were trying to beat the clock and get to their destination. I saw an older man sitting on a bench alone, and when I lapped back that way twenty or so minutes later, he was still there. I saw a younger woman sitting on the curb smoking a cigarette, and when I told her “good morning”, I recieved no response. I passed a man in his late twenties, I presume, pushing a child in a stroller, and both had genuine and joyful smiles.

I don’t know the stories of any of those people, but during that thirty or so minutes, I was surprised by God.

He gave me a glimpse of his world, and where he is at work daily. During that half-hour I saw through God’s eyes, and could see what else is happening outside the places I take shelter in: my home, my school, and my church. Perhaps a daily morning run isn’t for you, but stepping out into the real world every once in a while gives us perspective for what God is doing out there, and maybe, we can find a place to join him.

A previous Dean of the General Theological Seminary once defined Mission as “finding where God is already at work in the world and joining him there.”

As we move into the Summer, and as many of us leave our places of comfort much more often, observe what is around you, and ask yourself this question:

“Where is God at work, and how can I join him there?”

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